Yes, you can have it all.
As women, we’re pummeled with the “have it all” cliché and, hell’s bells, the pressure to “have it all” gets pretty stressful for some of us.
It can make us feel like we aren’t good enough.
Like we aren’t doing enough.
Like we’ll never have it all.
But what the heck is “all” and why do we have to have it?
The pressure to have it all
“All” used to be a nice home, a picket fence, two kids, a dog and the perfect husband, who wore a suit and made lots of money while we stayed at home with the kids, cooked, cleaned and baked cookies.
Ugh … I shudder to think how miserable that life would have made me! But we live in different times than our mothers and grandmothers.
As time went on and women started working outside the home and supporting themselves and/or the household, “all” started to take on a new definition.
Then we were being told “all” meant the nice home, the picket fence, two kids, the dog, the perfect husband, the clean house, the baked cookies and the perfect, high-powered job for me!
We are supposed to be balancing the life of the perfect mother, the perfect wife and the perfect employee, boss or entrepreneur.
That’s an awful lot of perfection, and it’s no surprise women are stressed trying to “have it all.”
Lately, we’re being told we can’t “have it all,” so don’t even bother. Now we have to choose, apparently, between the perfect home life and the perfect work life.
That’s where some serious BS comes into play, don’t you think?
Leadership Lioness, assert thyself
Lion society centres around the females of the pride. They are the hunters, they defend the property and they raise the cubs. They can survive on their own, but they thrive as members of a community.
The Leadership Lioness, out in the human world, can tackle the same roles. She’s the hunter, the defender and the mother. She can survive on her own and, yes, she can thrive while doing so.
She doesn’t thrive, however, by picking and choosing bits and pieces of what someone tells her the perfect life is.
She defines her own success.
Too often, women get caught up in how someone else defines success. The fear that we aren’t achieving that success and ending up with less than perfection can be a tremendous burden, creating stress and leading us to burnout.
Some women want to stay home and raise their kids. If they have the income to make that happen, great!
Some women don’t want kids. If they want to focus on other pursuits, great!
Some women want to blend the rhythms of motherhood and career … great!
As the Leadership Lioness, you must ask yourself:
- What is my definition of success?
- What is right for me?
- What do I like to do?
- How do I create that life?
- What risks am I willing to take?
That’s clarity. And once you get there, you can:
[tweetthis]Take action from a place that works for you and “have it all” on your terms.[/tweetthis]
You don’t have to choose between success at home and success at work. You just have to define what either of those pictures look like and how they can work together.
Yes, you can have it all.
As long as “all” is what works for you.