Spring has sprung, the buds are popping and the bees are buzzing. Time to break out of our winter routines and rejuvenate and revitalize-right?
Longer and warmer days naturally incite the urge to shake up the routine and maybe make some changes. We are inundated with messaging telling us now is the time to clean, get rid of extra clutter in our lives, and told that we can…make that SHOULD do it all in a mere 30 days! Side rant: I get why 30 days in our instant want a quick fix society is appealing AND it can be a great start… but honestly, EVERYTHING has become a 30 day challenge and it’s getting a little ridiculous. Okay. Rant over
But maybe you don’t feel like changing. That’s fine, no one is going to come knocking at your door, hand you a mop and bucket and demand you clean your house, start a new fitness routine and start brewing kombucha.
If you’re happy and things are working for you, then there’s no need to chase the next change. If you are in a place where you are content and enjoying life, then ride that wave until it is gone. We often get caught up in thinking we have to continually improve and grow–but if life is good then let it be good. Usually, people decide to change because something feels uncomfortable.
People also avoid change because it is uncomfortable and will usually opt for the option requiring the least amount of effort. So if you are feeling resistant to jumping on the change train this spring, have an honest check in with yourself to make sure you are truly content and not being an avoidant brat.
Change always causes some level of discomfort. Even if the change is exciting and you can be moving towards something good, you will still need to let go of something that you are doing. If you want to sleep more, you’ll have to give up on something. If you want to learn a new skill or spend time being creative, you will have to give up time normally allotted for something else.
When you take yourself off of autopilot, there is a part of your brain that will argue with you the whole way. It is about getting comfortable with small changes, so when you want to make a significant change, you are willing to be ok with the discomfort that comes with doing things differently. Often the anxiety is a perceived anxiety but the outcome is good.
Sometimes you don’t have a choice and change happens whether you want it or not.
When this happens, it is important to take care of yourself and address the stress caused by change. Short term upheaval is doable, not life or death. You will not die from this thing not happening/or happening – whichever is the change. And YES, there is such a thing as too much change. When it tips you over your stress point so you’re no longer functioning emotionally and cognitively, it impacts everything else in your world.
If you are contemplating doing something a little different to ring in the new season, try keeping it small. Laugh more. Do fun things. Take more deep breaths.
Most importantly–be honest with yourself. Just as easily as we can resist change because we are avoiding the discomfort that comes with it, we can also force ourselves into making a change because it something we think we should be doing because of some self (or socially) inflicted expectation.
A good example of this are the plethora of challenges people are always signing up for. Don’t get me wrong – these are great for giving you a starting point, but look at what your motivation is for signing up. If you could really care less and are only signing up because everyone else is, then you won’t sustain whatever change the challenge requires. If you are truly motivated, then bring some equally motivated friends on board to join you and keep you accountable.
Bottom line: if you are honestly and truly content, then smile and enjoy the nuances of the changing season and leave it at that. If you are feeling a little antsy but also anxious about making a change, think small and act with intention. Put one foot in front of the other and you will eventually get to the other end of the change.