Go to bed early.
Wake up early.
Read, write. Disconnect and relax, connect and engage.
These are the type of action words you find whenever you click on a link entitled “X things successful people do in the morning/afternoon/evening or on the weekend.”
Few days go by without one of my favourite newsfeeds telling me the things successful people do or did to be successful.
This was just last week:
Here are a few more you can find with a simple Google search:
- The Daily Habits of 20 Highly Successful People
- 10 Behaviors You Never See in Successful People
- 12 Weekend Habits of Highly Successful People
- 5 Things Successful People Do That Others Don’t
And you know what? They’re great.
Who wouldn’t want to know what Richard Branson or Marcus Lemonis has done to get where they are, at the very top of the business world?
Each thing a successful person does is a tip or a shortcut that could help you.
More importantly, each one shows that these people have found the methods that work for them.
That’s what you have to do.
How to be successful
Things might not be going so well for you right now. You’re looking for ways to make it better, straighten out your life, your business, your career.
So you click on those links, hungry for advice … any little tip that will give you a kickstart in the right direction.
And you do them … all of them! All at once! It must be what you’re supposed to do to be successful, right?
It’s like being at a smorgasbord. You pile your plate up with food just because it’s there. You go back for seconds, just because that’s what you paid for.
You eat it all, and now you’re bloated and gassy and gross. You’re no further ahead than you were before lunch, and you’re out $14.95.
Instead, let’s try taking a step back: Look at the buffet (of advice) in front of you and pick the things you like and the things that might work for you.
The R&D phase
It’s time to rob and duplicate. Oh sure, I know R&D is supposed to stand for “research and development,” but this is more fun.
[tweetthis]”Rob and duplicate” means you look at tips for success and find your own ways to implement them.[/tweetthis]
Pick a couple of starter projects, like mindful- meditation in the morning, and give it a go for six weeks or six months. If it’s not working, change it up.
Just don’t do everything on every list. If you do that, you won’t have any time to work or live.
You need to be clear about what you want and how to get there.
It’s all about clarity
When you don’t have clarity, parts (or all) of life seem out of control. You don’t feel on track. You start grasping at straws and you aren’t trusting what you’re doing.
You’re creating chaos.
When you have clarity, you have defined your values and your goals and you have a plan in place to fulfil those values and reach those goals.
You know how to make those tips work for you.
Advice from successful people is often about self-development and self-care. Should you get enough sleep? You bet. Should you exercise regularly? Of course. Should you hydrate, meditate and spend time with your family? Absolutely.
That doesn’t mean you have to play tennis for an hour a day like Anna Wintour or go kitesurfing like Richard Branson (I totally would). It means you have to customize that time to make it suit your specific needs.
How to get there
When I work with clients who need clarity and stress-management strategies, we brainstorm everything that has to happen to make a goal a reality.
I ask them to finish the statement or ask themselves questions like:
- I’m happiest when …
- On a scale of one to 10, how uncomfortable are you willing to get to change your process?
- What do I need to do to make my goal happen?
- How do I make other people’s stories work for me?
We break everything down into bite-sized, doable chunks. My clients start to feel less overwhelmed by the things they need to do because, all of a sudden, it doesn’t seem like such an impossible quest to be where they want to be.
With a plan, life becomes less chaotic.
So, you can adopt the tips and tricks you read about successful people doing and you can learn from others, but you must remain true to yourself. If any of the tips are incongruent with your values, let them go. Just keep experimenting with new tools until you’ve customized your perfect plan.
And don’t beat yourself up because trying something didn’t work. Like Thomas Edison said, “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
If that ain’t a great tip, I don’t know what is!